Most of the times you will be surrounded by people who are just part of the herd. These people don’t have any different principles of their own from others. As a process of living with others, you try to adjust with others. But these people can’t really tolerate someone with principles, let alone different principles. They will try to ridicule you as “different” from time to time wherever you go, they will try to destroy your principles. To avoid friction, you try to avoid such scenarios where there will be discussion around this but your principles encompass every circle of your life. At the same time, these principles don’t come naturally to you. You have to struggle every day to follow those. Once in a while, there will be a weak day where there will be a slight deviation in your behavior from your principles arising from the fatigue of your internal struggle and external demotivation. And that’s when the outer world will strike you with a tag of “hypocrite”. These people won’t help you to take you on your path, but they will wait and wait to find this opportunity to declare you as hypocrite and demolish everything that you believed about yourself. But don’t consider yourself hypocrite. Don’t believe the words of these people who don’t even have guts to take on the journey you are already on. Accept your defeat against yourself sometimes and move on. You are more powerful and brave than others who ridicule you. Life is more about internal struggle than external one. Be fearless in your own journey. Those who don’t appreciate your efforts do not deserve to be in your life.
You have got one lifetime. It’s race against time. Each fucking minute passes by showing you middle finger and if you’re watching it pass by, you get fucked real hard. Because you’re fucking watching it, not doing anything else. If you’re not watching it and being busy in doing something else, it fucking comes close to you and kisses you softly. Once you start getting a lot of consecutive kisses, the thing you’re doing starts to get a nice shape.
So once you stop caring and focus on your shit, you will be good.
Randy says he was fortunate to have been dying of Cancer. It got him precious time to plan and do things, make memories, leave something behind for his young kids which would guide them in their adulthood; the time which he wouldn’t have got had he died of heart attack or an accident.
The author, who was a Professor at Carnegie Mellon, shares his valuable insights on how to focus on important things in life, for the time is limited. An excellent read.
One of the most fascinating books I have read yet. Right from the cognitive revolution, the life of foragers and different human species to the industrial revolution, this book describes in detail many aspects of human evolution, their impacts on average human being and on homo sapiens as collective, reasons for typical changes in human life and predictions about future.
This book makes you think about the human life from a broader perspective. Do you think agricultural revolution was beneficial for human life? Harari argues otherwise. Do you think Capitalism and Consumerism has made the world happier? You might be wrong. Read this book to know how injustice has prevailed in history and why industrial revolution began only on one continent and not on any other continent. Read this book to know how human evolution has affected other species on earth and how all the scientific discoveries are not propelled only by the scientists, but by the socio-political clout.
I personally would have never imagined a book on history can be so captivating. Overall a thriller!
Really not essays but collection of blog posts. I like Dushka’s writing but sometimes it’s too abstract. This is a book which you can read once in a while, in bits and pieces but not all at once! Most of her writing is based on real life scenarios, so it’s easy to relate to. Overall a good read. Some of the essays give a great insight into everyday emotions and their origins that we don’t really pay attention to.
Books are an ultimate way to connect with someone without knowing them.
You are reading my favorite book? We might get along very well.
You are reading my favorite book? Good choice.
You are reading my favorite book? Let’s discuss so many related things and more.
You are reading my favorite book? Let me recommend you something.
You are reading my favorite book? Do you have any recommendations for me?
You are reading my favorite book? You and I belong to a same imaginary group.
You are reading my favorite book? What a beautiful site. My favorite book being read.
You are reading my favorite book? Looks like I can trust you even though you’re a stranger.
You are reading my favorite book? No awkwardness when we start talking because we are already connected on a different level.
Quite a few times, me reading a book has forced people to talk to me that would otherwise be impossible in any way. Few years back I was reading “Thinking fast and slow” by Daniel Kahneman and a German girl on Shatabdi Express told me how she loved that book and why. Few years before that, a man from Venezuela became my friend instantly when I was reading “Emotional Intelligence” by Daniel Goleman, in a busy restaurant in Pune on a relaxed Sunday morning. And yesterday, just when I was reading “Sapiens” by Yuval Noah Harari, a Chinese table tennis player came to me and said “What an excellent book!”.
Somehow books scream something that we can’t hear while we are reading them, and somehow we listen to books in a way that’s not too evident, when we’re not reading them. Magical!
I think we, humans, have this peculiar habit of taking our complaints with us wherever we go. We not only carry them with vigorous labour, but also make many other people we meet, aware of them. Whenever something happens in our lives, we instinctively find external factors responsible for it and put blame on them. But what do we really achieve by being in complaining mode?
- We disassociate ourselves from the situation.
- We find various reasons for why something has happened.
- We convince ourselves that the situation is not in our hands.
- We feel victimized by the situation.
- We do not feel responsible for taking corrective action.
Will we ever get the best out of the situation by complaining about something? How about we start responding to the situations instead? The basic step to start doing this is to take responsibility for everything that is happening to us and stop blaming it on others.
All that is happening to me is solely because of me, and not because of others. Not my parents, not my friends, but only me.
Once you are able to take responsibility of everything happening around you, you are suddenly flooded by the ways in which you can respond to the situation, which were unavailable to you in the first place if you were in complaining mode. You can choose any way to respond to the situation in, or you can choose not to respond. Ultimately, you have the choice. And this gives you freedom. If you felt victimized, you wouldn’t feel free.
Taking responsibility doesn’t have to burden you in any way. Responsibility is “Response + Ability”. Only when you take responsibility, you have ability to respond. Else, you are left to average things that will keep happening to you, which in most cases, not something that you want or are best for you.
We have already been practicing this art our whole life. But the only difference is we start responding only when it happens to others, and we start complaining when something happens to ourselves. Whenever our friend faces any difficulty in her life, we start thinking about all the solutions instead of complaining about the situation, but we don’t do the same when it’s about us.
Whenever we are playing a computer game, and an event happens which puts us in a slightly worse position, we don’t complain, but we respond in a way that will help us win the game!
Then why is it so difficult to do it during our own life events? Because we don’t feel responsible enough! But it shouldn’t be too hard to practice! Why don’t we start small and slow? Let’s start responding to all the events that happen to us instead of complaining and may be life will be much more fun game!
[This article is inspired by excerpts from the book ‘Inner Engineering‘ by Sadhguru]